So the question has been popped and the two of you are about to sit down and start planning for your big day. First - congratulations! Next - take a deep breath because it's about to get very complicated. Everyone thinks immediately of the big things - cake, dress, location, flowers - but it's really the smaller things that will sneak up on you and cause stress, overspending, or both! Here's a few things that will help you plan for some of those little surprises ahead of time!
The Dress - and the other dresses, and the tuxedos, and the shoes, and…
Everyone remembers the wedding dress, it is - after all - the centerpiece of any wedding, but even that one dress has expenses that aren't on the price tag. Just to get you started, this might include -
- Underwear and hosiery - including the garter belt
- Jewelry - don't forget belts and hair decorations
- Accessories - could be just about anything depending on what your wedding plans and style is
- You will also need to do this for every single dress and tuxedo in your wedding party - especially if you are asking the wedding party to buy their own. Make sure you know exactly how much you are asking them to spend on your wedding and figure out how you are going to cover that cost for anyone you really want but know just can't afford it.
And Still More Outfits...
Wait… there's more. Exactly how many pre- and post-wedding events are you having? And how many of those do you need new outfits for? Depending on how party happy you get you might need one or all of those things for the bride and groom for each of these events as well -
- Engagement Party
- Engagement Photos
- Bridal Shower
- Bachelor/Bachelorette Parties
- Rehearsal Dinner
- Reception Party
- The First Brunch - traditionally the first official event as a couple, usually the morning after the wedding, includes the wedding party and parents/grandparents
- The Send-Off - if you aren't leaving on a honeymoon right away, you might want to have one last party the night before you do leave for all your friends and family to enjoy.
- Trash The Dress Photos - this is fairly new in the wedding world, but if it's your thing - do you need an outfit for it?
Now, you may not need a special outfit for any or all of these events, but if you feel you do, make sure you budget for it, or you may be out hundreds or thousands of dollars you weren't planning on.
Salons & Barbershops
Now that you have the clothes looking good, it's time to make the people look good in them! Your big day might include any number of salon and/or barbershop visits in the week or so before the wedding, so make sure to work them into your budget. They might include -
- Hair Color
- Professional Shaves
- Spray tans
- Hair Styling Trial
- Makeup Trials
- Day Of Styling
- Day Of Makeup
- Day Of Shaves
- Generous Tips for everyone involved
Make sure you consider exactly who is a part of all of these things, and who is paying for them, when you are making your budget. Is the entire wedding party getting the full treatment, or will just the couple and one each of their most trusted friends doing the testing phase, or will everyone be on their own for the beauty treatments? The answer to these questions can make or break a budget.
Now that you and your entire wedding party are looking good on your wedding day - it's time to flesh out all those other little things. Do your best to consider all the little pieces that go into each of your categories. Ask friends and family to help remind you of the little costs you might have forgotten or get a wedding planner to help keep you on task and make sure nothing gets forgotten and your well-planned budget doesn't get destroyed.